So, you're deep in the throes of wedding planning, and you've hit a bit of an etiquette snag: should you put your registry info on your wedding invitations? It's a question as old as time (or at least as old as gift registries), and trust me, you're not alone in wondering.
Our team at Daisy Chat has seen it all, and we’re here to spill the tea and give you the lowdown on this tricky topic. Let's dive in!
Do you put where you are registered on wedding invitations?
In the world of wedding etiquette, it’s generally considered a faux pas to include wedding registry information directly on your wedding invitations. Why? Well, it can come across as a tad presumptuous, like you’re more interested in the gifts than in celebrating your love with your guests.
Think of it this way: your wedding invitation is a heartfelt invitation to share in your joy, not a shopping list. Your guests are excited to celebrate with you, not to be bombarded with gift-related details right off the bat.
If you don't add your registry to your invites, where do you put it?
Just because you can’t put it on the invite doesn’t mean your guests won’t know where to find your registry. There are plenty of other ways to subtly share this information.
Here are a few ideas:
Wedding website: This is the perfect spot to include your registry details. You can even create a separate “Gifts” page on your website if you want to keep things organized. Just remember to include your website URL on your wedding invitation.
Reception cards: These can be included with your wedding invitations to provide additional information, such as details about the wedding registry.
Bridal shower invitations: It’s perfectly acceptable to include registry information on bridal shower invitations, since the focus of these events is often gift-giving.
Daisy Chat: Daisy Chat is one of the easiest ways to text wedding guests (and the perfect add-on to your setup on The Knot, Zola, etc.). Not only can you send message blasts about your registry, but Daisy Chat has an AI-powered wedding guest concierge feature where your guests can ask questions about your registry and receive an instant answer. In other words, spend less time responding to questions like “Can I bring a gift to the wedding or should I mail it to your house?” and more time on the important stuff!
What about "no gifts, please"?
If you're not interested in receiving gifts, that's perfectly fine too! However, it's still not recommended to put "No Gifts, Please" on your invitations. Again, it can come across as a bit awkward or even insulting to guests who genuinely want to give you something special.
If you really want to discourage gifts, you can subtly mention it on your wedding website or let your inner circle know to spread the word. Most guests will get the hint.
How do you politely put a registry on your wedding website?
There's no need to be shy about including your registry on your wedding website — it's the perfect spot for it! Most wedding website templates even have a dedicated section for this.
Here are a few tips for doing it gracefully:
Create a separate page: Label it "Gifts" or "Registry" to keep things clear.
Use friendly language: "For those who have asked about gifts, we've registered at [store names]."
Link directly to your registries: Make it easy for guests to find what you're wishing for.
Offer a variety of options: Include links to different stores or even a honeymoon fund.
Thank your guests: Express your gratitude for their generosity and thoughtfulness upfront.
If I do put my registry on my invitation, how should I word it?
Okay, okay, I hear you. You might have your reasons for wanting to include your registry info directly on your invitation. Maybe it’s a cultural tradition, or perhaps you just want to make things crystal clear for your guests.
If you absolutely must go this route, here are a few tips for wording it as politely as possible:
Keep it subtle: Don’t make it the main event on your invitation. Tuck it away at the bottom or on a separate enclosure card. Including RSVP cards with clear instructions can help ensure accurate headcounts and make it easier for guests to respond.
Use gentle language: Avoid phrases like “We expect gifts” or “Please purchase from our registry.” Instead, try something like “For those who have inquired about gift ideas, we are registered at…”
Focus on gratitude: Let your guests know how much you appreciate their presence and well-wishes. You can say something like, “Your presence at our wedding is the greatest gift of all, but for those who have expressed an interest, we have registered at…”
Offer options: Don’t limit your guests to just one store or registry. Include links to a few different options or mention that gift cards are also appreciated.
Here’s a template of how you could word it: “For those who have asked about gift ideas, we are registered at [Store Name] and [Store Name]. Your presence at our wedding is the greatest gift of all, but we appreciate any tokens of your love and support.”
Remember, it's your wedding!
At the end of the day, the decision of whether or not to include registry information is entirely up to you. If you're comfortable with it and it feels right for your wedding, go for it! Just be prepared for a few raised eyebrows from etiquette sticklers.
My advice? Focus on creating a wedding that reflects your unique love story and celebrates the joy of your commitment. The gifts will take care of themselves.
Frequently asked questions
Is it okay to have multiple registries?
Absolutely! It’s actually a great way to cater to different budgets and preferences. You can register at a few different stores, or include a honeymoon fund or charity donation option for those who prefer to give experiences or contribute to a cause you care about.
When should I create my registry?
Is it appropriate to include registry information on wedding shower invitations?
Can I ask for cash gifts instead of traditional gifts?
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